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You’re never good enough.
When you are with your partner, do you feel confident and like they are bringing out your best self? Because that is how a healthy relationship normally feels. However, if the opposite is true — if you feel like your self-confidence is waning, slowly but surely — then Winter warns your relationship is not a healthy one. “You never feel smart enough, pretty enough, or accomplished enough to satisfy your mate. You’re always striving to impress them, yet continually feeling like you’re letting them down,” she says.
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You’re doing things you don’t want to do to please your mate.
It’s good to have partner who helps you break out of your comfort zone and experience new things, but not to the point where it makes you feel uncomfortable or bad in any way —especially, Winter says, in the bedroom. “[If] you’re engaging in sexual activity that makes you feel uncomfortable, yet your greatest fear is displeasing your mate,” the relationship is an unhealthy one, says Winter.
