Part Four — The Promise Became a Life
The lawyer explained that marriage did not automatically give me parental rights. I would need temporary guardianship, background checks, proof of income, a childcare plan, and a home the court considered suitable for nine children.
Rebecca’s cousin argued that the children should be divided among relatives. He called it practical. He said nine children were too much responsibility for one man who had known them for only a week.
At the hearing, I did not pretend he was wrong about the difficulty. Instead, I brought my work schedule, my budget, my plan for childcare, and a list of people willing to help.
The judge asked Sarah whether she felt safe with me.
She glanced at the others before answering.
“He’s afraid,” she said. “But he hasn’t run away. He said we would stay together, and I believe him.”
The judge granted temporary guardianship.
It was not adoption. It was not a promise that the arrangement would last. But that evening, all nine children came home with me.
The first year was a storm we learned to walk through one day at a time.
I worked extra shifts. I forgot school forms. Once, I attended the wrong twin’s parent-teacher meeting and spent ten minutes praising the wrong child’s handwriting.
Jonathan and Jonah thought it was the funniest thing that had ever happened.
One morning, Lucy held up a blouse I had taken from the dryer.
“This used to be white,” she announced.
I examined the bright pink fabric.
“It has more character now.”
“You turned six shirts pink.”
“Then pink is our official family color.”
She tried to look offended, but laughter won.
I also learned that love required more than feeding children and paying bills. It required noticing what they were carrying.
At a school event, another parent touched Sarah’s shoulder.
“It’s wonderful how much you help with the younger ones,” the woman said. “You’re practically their second mother.”
I stopped walking.
“Sarah is their sister,” I said gently. “She deserves to be a child too.”
Later, in the car, Sarah admitted she had been waking before everyone else to prepare lunches.
“I can help,” she said. “You can’t do everything.”
“You’re right,” I told her. “I can’t. That’s why I’ll ask adults for help. You don’t have to become the mother your mother left behind.”
The legal process continued for years. There were home visits, hearings, background checks, and unanswered attempts to locate Rebecca. Eventually, the court granted me permanent custody. Later, the adoptions were completed in stages because of the children’s ages.
At the final hearing, Hailey tugged my sleeve.
“Does this paper mean you can’t leave us?”
I looked down at the decree.
“It says I can’t.”
Sarah nudged my arm.
“You said that before the paper.”
She was right. The document did not create the promise. It only put a legal seal on something we had already become.